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Wednesday, July 09, 2008
As many of you know, I met Gavin via eHarmony. I signed up in late January/early February with a friend and began the adventure of online dating. A day or two after signing up, I came across Gavin's profile and knew in an instant that I liked him, so I "started communication." We've been together for about 5 months and I do have to say that because of our relationship (and because of the relationships other friends of mine have had through eHarmony), I recommend it.
This being said, I have some advice for the ladies who try out eHarmony. Because you have seen both how cute Gavin is, what a good writer he is and probably can sense how happy he makes me (even when he's a little bit of a stick in the mud), I would like to suggest some tips in disqualifying some of the matches that will (probably) come your way:
1. The man is wearing no shirt in his pictures.
My bias about this is that men who post public pictures of themselves without a shirt on are players. I happen not to be interested in dating a man who plays the field.
2. Poor spelling and/or grammar is used.
I can look over one or two typos, but if the man can neither compose a sentence or spell properly, chances are that man isn't too smart. To each their own, I suppose, but I am looking for a man displays intelligence and takes care to present himself properly.
3. Admits to either not reading at all, or never having read anything since college.
Reading, in my opinion, is important in developing one's sense of self. Through reading we discover ideas and are challenged in our viewpoint. Similar to point #2, a person who doesn't read shows me a lack of intelligence and/or ability to open up to new thoughts and ideas. That such person is not for me. I don't care much about what someone reads...just that they do.
4. Picture or mention of his love for riding on a motorcycle.
Having worked in a trauma hospital where there's at least one motorcycle trauma every week, I can honestly say that I want nothing to do with motorcycles. They are very, very dangerous in my opinion and I have no interest in embracing the dangerous.
5. The man has one (or multiple) pictures of himself with a gun.
So you may think this is a joke, but I did get matched with this one person who had something like 9 pictures of himself but 5 (!) of them were posed with a gun. Sure this guy is an army guy or whatever, but I happen not to be a fan of guns because, similar to point #4, they're dangerous and I have no desire to embrace the dangerous.
- Jenny, 7/09/2008 08:12:00 AM